“A human being is part of a whole, called by us the Universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings, as something separated from the rest a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circles of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”
“The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mystical.”
“The circumstances of our lives actually matter less to our happiness than the sense of control we feel over our lives.” says Rory Sutherland, advertising guru in this highly entertaining talk. “The power of reframing things cannot be overstated”.
“When you can’t smoke, if you stand and stare out of the window on your own, you’re an antisocial, friendless idiot. If you stand and stare out of the window on your own with a cigarette, you’re a philosopher.”
“Reality isn’t a particularly good guide to human happiness.” It all depends on how you view things, not on what they are. Many problems can be solved psychologically. We have the power to rebrand experiences. Choose your frame of reference. Reframe reality.
(…) We need to reverse the formula for happiness and success. In the last three years, I’ve traveled to 45 different countries, working with schools and companies in the midst of an economic downturn. And what I found is that most companies and schools follow a formula for success, which is this: If I work harder, I’ll be more successful. And if I’m more successful, then I’ll be happier. That undergirds most of our parenting styles, our managing styles, the way that we motivate our behavior.
And the problem is it’s scientifically broken and backwards for two reasons. First, every time your brain has a success, you just changed the goalpost of what success looked like. You got good grades, now you have to get better grades, you got into a good school and after you get into a better school, you got a good job, now you have to get a better job, you hit your sales target, we’re going to change your sales target. And if happiness is on the opposite side of success, your brain never gets there.What we’ve done is we’ve pushed happiness over the cognitive horizon as a society. And that’s because we think we have to be successful, then we’ll be happier.
The central nervous system, nature’s mysterious engine. The brain is a goal-seeking machine.
You are the operator of your consciousness. Know thyself.
When I watch myself in the mirror, I sense feedback loops. Biofeedback amplifies thoughts.
What do I focus my attention on ?
Mental models are the inner representation about how things work in the outer world.
They affect how you work with information and determine decisions.
Double-loop learning uses feedback to shape decisions, as well as the decision-making rules and their underlying model.
Are you a single-loop learner ? Try paying attention to your decision-making habits. This makes you become aware of which personal beliefs and mental models make you do things. Adjust your beliefs and you will take different decisions. The world will be different as you act and perceive it with a self-improved model of reality. Recursive positive feedback loops amplify your chosen beliefs. You manifest your reality.
How much life energy are you trading against money ?
Every dollar you spend = the amount of your life energy it took to get it. Money = life energy.
The hours left in your life are a finite resource, not infinite.
Every time I spend about $______ , I am trading about an hour of my life energy.
When I buy ______ , I am trading ______ hours of my life.
The key question: Is it worth it?
I only have ______ hours left in my life.
Apply three questions to each expense:
1. Did I receive fulfillment and satisfaction in proportion to the life energy spent?
2. Is this expenditure of life energy in alignment with my values, goals and life purpose?
3. How might this expenditure change if I didn’t have to work for a living?
Am I making a living or making a dying ?
What is the purpose of work ? Work should be whatever you do in alignment with
your purpose in life.
You will work for pay for a finite period of time. Maximize your income, then stop when you have enough.